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  • Child Exploitation Online

    Written by CME, 2013

    Short article about Child Exploitation Online: why it happens, how and why to report it.

    cnn story about child exploitation

    child online exploitation

    Spiral of Poverty One Cause of Child Exploitation Online

    27.9% of Filipino citizens make less than 16,841 pesos (412USD) a year according to data from National Statistics Coordination Board (2012).  16,841 peso/year is considered below the poverty line by Philippine standards.  The Philippines is still a third world country with a  poor quality of life and a poor quality of education that enhances the suffering of many children.

    Unfortunately, the strong influence of the Catholic church does more to hurt than heal with its political push to  block laws that  favor of family planning issues such as birth control and prochoice.  Schools do not teach sex education so children grows up without the knowledge of safe sex. They grow up to become very young parents with even less knowledge about family or birth control causing an endless cycle of poverty.

    In a family with 5 kids or more, an only one breadwinner, with a job of a minimum salary of less than 300 pesos daily.  It takes a lot of budgeting.  The families diet consists ofporridge, noodles and sardines. 300 pesos is not enough to supply the family’s needs. In order to survive the parents are forced to make their children work for a living. Due to lack of parenting they implant in children’s mind that they must be responsible of taking care of the family specially the eldest daughter or son. Mostly it is the eldest daughter that is obliged to work for the entire family.

    Poor Parents Make it worse

    In worst case (yet common) scenario parents talk their daughter into prostitution. Some sells their kids for slavery or sent to beg for money on the streets.. Some children are exploited in cities  Luzon Area such as Angeles Pampangga, Cavite and Metro Manila to work as cam girls on the Internet to show their young bodies to the foreigners.  The authorities do investigate and catch the international and domestic sexual predators however the underground market for this activity still goes on even though “cam girl” activity is actually against the law (Cybercrime Prevention Act of 2012).

    The exploitation of minors is also happening in other poor countries such as Thailand and Cambodia where those in a position to alert the police turn a blind eye for money or participate in what will lead to the scaring of a child that will grow up into life-long self destruction.  Raped of their innocence without the benefit of a childhood and not given the chance to choose for themselves what life they wanted all to satisfy the perverse appetite of people that know better but don’t care.

    The parents of these kids are certainly at fault, but if there was no one giving money for these acts, without pedofiles and predator customers paying for the activity there would be no reason to do it.

    Only We can Fight against Child Exploitation Online

     There is a that says:  “It takes a village to raise a child.”

     Its our responsibility to report these acts, confront the parents and raise awareness where we can.  These children deserve a bright future and guidance instead of being abused and damned to a life of being used and exploited.  The real disease is poverty this is only one of the symptoms.

    Ways to Stop Online Child Exploitation:

    If you know of an offender that is doing this report them.  The only way to help kids from being exploited online is the stop the people that give money for the act.  If we don’t help these children, no one else will.

     Europe – http://ceop.police.uk/ – email…enquiries@ceop.gsi.gov.uk

     US

    http://stoponlineexploitation.org/

    https://www.childwelfare.gov/responding/exploitation.cfm

     Canada:

    www.redcross.ca

     Australia:

    The AFP investigates online child exploitation which occurs using a telecommunications service, such as computers with internet connectivity or mobile phones. —  www.afp.gov.au

    MORE:  https://www.google.com/search?q=online+exploitation&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&aq=t&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a

     

    www.unicef.org/infobycountry/philippines_46852.html

     

    References:

    Leland Joseph R. Dela Cruz, 2009 Philippine Poverty, 9 February 2011, http://www.slideshare.net/ldelacruz/poverty-situationer-2011-8294418 (accessed February 15, 2012).

    farivar, cyrus, 2012 New Philippine Law, Sept, 2012, http://arstechnica.com/tech-policy/2012/09/new-philippine-law-outlaws-cybersex/

     

  • Filipino Cupid Success

    Filipino Cupid Success

    Written by: Matt 🙂 ** for you, baby**

    In 2011, I submitted an article to elamb.org about how I was scammed on Filipino cupid.

    http://elamb.org/filipino-cupid-filipino-heart-american-scammed/

     That article was accompanied by an article by the actual woman that scammed me:  http://elamb.org/filipino-cupid-filipino-heart-scam-ring/

    Even though the interaction was built on lies, it actually start to turn into a relationship, a relationship that ended with her apologizing and me finding it hard to trust.  Its was a lot of heartache for both of us.  The good that came out of it was that we decided to warn others against that treacherous path we chose.  We of course broke up and she eventually paid me back.

    Since that time things have changed a lot.  I have had filipino cupid success.  Not only did I find true love but I found the woman of my dreams.  A woman that is not only beautiful but someone who has become my best friend and someone who is apart of me completely.  I did not think such a thing was possible.  But here it is.  Even though I make an average income, I feel wealthy.  Its like I have found a castle full of riches.

     So I have been thinking how could I have found this person sooner.. what tips could I give to help others find a good woman and AVOID all that mistakes I made:

     TIPS:

     asking money dating site1.  She Asks Money.  If the lady you meet online is asking for money, this is a pretty good indication that she is all about money.  Because of the poverty and the environment that is provides no legal, religious, moral or financial support of single mothers, MANY filipinas turn to asking, begging or scamming money from dating sites.  Some even make a living from this alone.  If her family is struggling, her priority is to them.  And its very understandable, but understand that because of this situation you are someone she just met.  You are a means to help her family who she would die for.  So lying to you is easy.

     So how do you determine who just really needs help and who is scamming?  You CAN NOT.  But from my experience, the ones that do not ask for money are serious.  All the ones that asked for money were no good.  If the money stops, they leave.  Its one thing to just ask for money but its another to pretend to be in love to get money, that is actually worse than a Gold Digger.

    rule #1:  Just don’t give money.  Giving out money is NOT the way to filipino cupid success.

    pitty dating2.  Victim stories.  This is usually tied to money.  They will tell you a terrible story about disease, death or accidents in the family.  Or they will say that their baby needs milk.  Keep in mind that you have NO WAY of know what is the truth from online chats.  They are telling you this story so that you feel pity and ask them if they need help (money).

     Ask yourself, 1-If they are in such a bad situation, why are they on the Internet?  In fact, how can they afford electricity and Internet in the first place?  2-WHY in the world would someone go on a DATING site to get pity?  Shouldn’t they get help at a church or friends or family or some sort of organization.  Don’t listen to victim stories.. you are on a dating site to find love not to become a charity organization.

     3. She will not get on video.  If he keeps making excuses to not be seen on video then she not who she says she is.  In fact, it might not even be a SHE.

     Filipino Cupid Success4.  Listen to her past.  Assuming she did not ask for money, did not try to receive charity from pity and you like what you see on video, then the next step is to get her to talk about herself.  Find out about her past relationship to see what kind of behavior she has in her life.  A person establishes habits that are more set the older they are.  Assume those habits are there to stay and ask yourself, “can I live with that?”

    5.  Is she compatible with you?  Determining compatibility takes time.  Do you enjoy talking the her?  Does she like talking to you?  Do you feel comfortable and happy interacting?  Do you have arguments?  Can they be resolved?  Whatever the attraction it should be way beyond just sex.

    I would also say that once you find the right one, you both should lose the desire to stay on dating sites.  When it is really good, dating sites lose their appeal.  You just don’t want to go there anymore.  There is no reason too.

     Through all the heartbreak, and all the crazy scams on filipinocupid.com, the filipino cupid success I have now has definitely made it worth it all.  I just hope you can be smarter than I was about it.  NOT giving money based on sob stories making sure she is who she says she is with VIDEO and then finding the right one.

    I found the love of my life on filipino cupid, a dating site.  Its something that is way beyond words.  We have been together over a year and have met several times.    Together we have been traveling the world living a dream..

    Good luck.