Dating Scams

by Rob Elamb | 111 Comments

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BEWARE OF DATING SITE SCAMS. There are a lot of false profiles out on the dating sites. The false ones are typically free member parasites and not usually paying members. Many of the false profiles are harmless member stealer’s. They are on there to flirt with you and try and get you to come to some other dating site. But some are trying to steal your heart to get to your money.

ONLINE DATING SCAM TACTICS:

Step 1) Take the Bait

You meet someone on a dating site (Adult Friend Finder, Match, okcupid, etc). This person has posted a picture of themselves and they are gorgeous!
Their profiles says something like:

I am a caring ,loving, honest, respectful and i believe in god and real people to hop to meet meet my real love here

There profile seems perfect. They sounds sweet, loving and caring. Their picture (if they have one) looks incredible. They seem to live pretty close.

What’s really going on? More than likely it is some ugly dude from a third world country who just learned to use a computer. They found a hot picture and posted it on the dating site. They are the exact opposite of what ever they said on their profile: they are uncaring, dishonest and don’t respect anyone… not even themselves.

Step 2) The Out of Country Story

You send them a message. They reply and tell you that they’d rather talk to you on email (usually hotmail or yahoo). They then proceed to tell you that they are currently in another country (Nigeria, Ghana, Mali, England), but they have some sort of connection to the states in your local area. They’ll say they’re relatives are there or they do business their and they’d love to meet you sometime.

What’s really going on? They really are outside of whatever country you are (usually Nigeria, Ghana, West Africa – this is one of the top scams in that region).

Step 3) Relationship Deception

What they do next is get a steady relationship with you. They will send more pictures. They will want to know more about you so they can cater to your ego. They will tell you they love you, tell you how good you look, how great you are. Basically, anything get the relationship going.

What’s really going on? They are lying to you and 20 other people on 5 or 6 different dating sites.

Step 4) A Crisis: they Need Money

There are various lies they may use to get money. They will ask for cash to buy the ticket to come visit you or they will tell you a tragedy has occurred and they need your help maybe even with a promise to pay you back.

What’s really going on? They are attempting to take your money and spend it on bullshit.

Clues to Spot Dating Scams:

- Pictures look too professional. Magazine quality photos should be a dead give away. If they send a series of pics and each one looks like a “model posed” photo shoot, be suspicious.
BAD GRAMMAR & SPELLING. They are typically not very well educated and it will sometimes come through loud the clear via very choppy English and slight stupid logic. Sometimes it is as bad as a 3rd grader (a dumb 3rd grader).
Western Africa. Be suspicious of ANYTHING from from Ghana, Mali and especially Nigeria.
Too much love, too fast. They will almost immediately start talking about “I love you”, “I miss you” – don’t be flattered… they don’t love you… trust me.

Disclaimer: Miracles do happen. Maybe you’ve just met a West African supermodel, with bad grammar, who has fallen madly in love with you in the course of two or three emails.

Conclusion:
I’ve dealt with these scammers on ebay, email, dating sites and in chat rooms and one thing I’ve noticed is that they are actually not very smart. They are just ruthless. They take advantage of people’s trust, kindness and generosity. They are not so much predators as they are parasites that jump from host to host. They feed on the infrastructure and wealth of Western Civilization and have nothing at all to contribute to humanity but ignorance and greed. The sad thing is that these few greedy, idiots are giving ALL West Africans a bad name on the Web and these nations (particularly Ghana & Nigeria) are among the richest nations in Africa with the greatest potential of having great success in any and all endeavors. Its a real shame.

Richest African Countries 2006: GDP Per Country

1. South Africa … $606.4 billion in international$ (up 8% from 2005)
2. Algeria … $262.2 billion (up 8.5%)
3. Nigeria … $181.8 billion (up 10.2%)
4. Morocco … $150.8 billion (up 4.8%)
5. Sudan … $98.8 billion (up 11.2%)
6. Tunisia … $91.4 billion (up 7.4%)
7. Ethiopia … $78.4 billion (up 12%)
8. Ghana … $59.4 billion (up 9.1%)

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  1. pam
    June 24, 2009 at 5:39 pm (5 years ago)

    anyone been scammed by a Micheal Kelvin Larry– he says he lives in arvada colorado– is on business with his assisstant named james and he works in export/import oil and gas– he said he took over his fathers company when he was 25 now claims to be 52 single and has 2 children that live in ny bernice and smith — HE Also claims to be german and when speaking on phone sounds like a german accent who knows — also very persistant needs money to meet me and come home to access his bank acct that he froze because he was robbed of 25,000. while on a business trip. ALSO banks with bank of america and gave a address in arvada co that i confirmed not his but only after sending about 1,700.00 money i did not have — taking out many payday loans and he promised to pay back. And wow on his way to see me was in a car accident and needed more money for operation. A true friend look up web site about ghana scams-arvada and i felt sick when i read- it would be great to talk to someone that has gone thru this — i just feel sick and ashamed that i was so stupid

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  2. Diana Krutzik
    July 30, 2009 at 12:25 am (5 years ago)

    Hi, Almost got scammed by a wonderful man who said he was stranded in Ghana, Met him on 'OK Cupid". Everything I always dreamed of…until he started asking for money. Alarm bells for me. Never, never will i fall for one of these. But it broke my heart. I had counted on an open, honest man and he almost took me for a ride. Please be aware, don't fall for the money angle.

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  3. Anne
    September 6, 2009 at 12:50 pm (5 years ago)

    Enter text right here!Ladys, please be aware of a man name Gerard Scott His yahoo mail is gerard_scott95@yahoo.com He said he came from Prince Edouard Island, Canada, but he is orginally from Ghana. He put his profile on match.com and said he's a widower, 51 years old. He said he's into sales and marketing in the field of gold and diamond, import and export. He had to go to Ghana for his client but since he's there, he seems to had a lot of problems and need money. He always travelled with his lovely daughter, Olivia, like he said. Now he's suppose to be in an hospital in Ghana, dying after a big accident and his daughter send me an email asking money to pay the medication. But curiously, the High Commission of Canada doesn't found any Gerard Scott in Ghana. And since about 2 hour, i saw his profile on math.com, in the new one. The profile is the same and the picture too. But now he said he live in Georgetown in Prince Edouard Island. Please be careful he's very smart and lovely, but just want your money.

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    • iris
      April 3, 2011 at 1:14 am (4 years ago)

      Hi Anne:

      I am from b.c and this is how that should be spelt.. it is prince edward island. I have learned from my experience I just had myself from someone who was suppose to be a sgt in iraq. They cannot spell very well or their language is kind of odd , specially the way they talk. So, watch out for that !!

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  4. Serge
    September 17, 2009 at 9:55 pm (5 years ago)

    Hi everyone out there! I
    I almost got scamm by Helen Asante. I met her on z.o.o.s.k. She is in Ghana and she got a gorgoeous picture on her profile. We started as friends and suppostly we are in love now. She keeps calling me, texting me saying I LOVE YOU!! She asked me to get her a latop and send it to Ghana cuz the one she uses, her little cousin is taking it with her to school. Im glad I did a research about scammers and found her picture here. She is the one on the pic above. She is using a PORN STAR PICTURE. One of you guys wrote in here the porn star's name and its "Raven Riley" Wow!! I can't believe it!! This scammer!!

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  5. sigge
    December 9, 2009 at 1:31 am (5 years ago)

    Has anyone been scammed by Pat Wilson Accra Ghana?

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  6. Lynn
    January 12, 2010 at 1:39 am (5 years ago)

    If it sounds too good to be true, it usually is! I started talking to a guy who was nearby, and said that he dealt with gold and diamonds. Said he had never been to Africa in his life. Guess what three weeks later he and his 13 yr old son went to Africa to buy gold and diamonds. He e-mailed and called constantly. Said that his son was having a birthday, and wanted a camcorder and play station 3. He couldn't find it there. There was no way for him to wire money to me to buy these things. He wanted me to buy and send by UPS and he woukd pay me back when he returned home in two weeks. He was in Accura, Ghana, and gave me an address to UPS package. I contacted Westrn Union, and the FBI. Found out there was no problem with wiring money from Ghana . as I had been told. I e-mailed him the good news, and haven't heard from him since.

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  7. carol
    January 25, 2010 at 11:41 pm (5 years ago)

    I have just been scammed for the 5th time in two months enough is enough guys get off the internet and get out there and meet us real life girls we are there instead of these african scammers and the rest i am from australia now single and will not be contacting any more dating services now i go and find a real man good luck guys we are out here just keep looking

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  8. Sandra
    January 31, 2010 at 1:35 am (5 years ago)

    I want to know where do they get the pictures of these guys? The one I had looked like it was just an ordinary home picture of a guy sittng on an ugly green couch. I didn't get taken because I was suspicious from the beginning. He didn't look like a 50 year old. I sent a comment to CNN to see if they would pick it up and do a report on it.

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  9. Miki
    February 20, 2010 at 9:15 pm (5 years ago)

    Had a Phil Adams (phil_adams4u@yahoo and phil_adams4me@live.com) from Match. He told me he was in Iraq, but originally from Piscataway, NJ. His daughter (age 10) was still there. Said he got orders to go to Accra Ghana, and probably wouldn't have computer access as easly. Wanted me to send him a laptop w/webcam so we could communicate. Would be coming home in 3 months. So many I Love Yous, E-mails with music claiming I was The Queen of his heart. He claimed were of his own writings, but found everyone online. When I told him I might be able to send the laptop, he gave me the following Shipping address: Maxwell Agyemang (233-543-6162-60) 60 Mango Tree Ave. Accra Ghana. Of course this set off red flags. When I asked him who Maxwell Agyemang was he replied an agent that will get the lapop to him. Did some research on anything going on in Ghana with our troops, couldn't find anything. When I questioned that, he said that they were going as civilians to help keep the piece. Wow….. I knew better. Didn't send the laptop. I does not stop contacting me.

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  10. Tam
    March 5, 2010 at 2:08 am (5 years ago)

    Wow so sorry for me and all the rest of you. Will never be that stupid again. a fool and her money. So sad how do they sleep at night. Good luck everyone!

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  11. amazing
    March 11, 2010 at 1:43 pm (5 years ago)

    Enter text right here: I have to tell you, that they are very good. I have been speaking with Kelvin_Tony and he was supposed to be from Little America, Minnesota. Of course he too had to leave for Africa to do a job. He stated that he was an artist and got the contract. He has been contacting me and asking me to send him a package that has something that I wear around my neck, so he can have me close to him , as well as a shirt that I wear so he can have the smell of me. I did not send any packages. I did purchase a calling card, and that is it. Now he is asking me to send him some cash since he needs to get back to Minnesota,. I told him that would not be happening. He has not stopped calling or IM me yet. His last e-mail was that he love me very much and he will re-pay me when he arrives in Milwaukee. He even stated that he would send me a copy of the plane ticket . I am not being suckered into any of it. I find it really annoying that they have no morals and target too many people out here who truly would just like to meet someone who is decent.

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  12. Erwin V
    March 19, 2010 at 11:19 am (5 years ago)

    Goodmorning to u all,

    Since one week i'm talking to a young lady, 32 years old, responding to the foto on top of this page, called Mary K, working as a hairdresser. We had several webcam sessions so i could verify talking to the right person. I did and she seems to be the right one. The words god and godfearing have appeared a lot in her chatmessages. I had contact with 2 other persons, 2 other names, using the same pictures of "my girl". I confronted her. She replied this was very bad and even gave me her webadress where she had a internetsite containing sexual materials. Seems quite honest. Now i really don't know what to believe anymore……………………All this has started on Tagged. In her texts she pulss and pushes constantly, mindfucking techniques. Her cellphone doesn't work properly so she popped the question to let me pay € 70 and her cut €30 for a new one. I really don't know what to do now. Is there anyone out there hou could share experiences, help me out ? Thanks a lot. Erwin V from Tagged

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  13. tammy
    April 24, 2010 at 2:08 am (5 years ago)

    anyone out there hav any info on eric wareen?sure am glad i'm nosy!any info please send it to gypsy49fifty@yahoo.com. thanx

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  14. mick
    May 8, 2010 at 2:28 pm (5 years ago)

    i got scamed for about $ 9000 from a bitch saying she was in germany but was in ghana used the name lou dabra anita dabra lewis dabra on aff as humamatu 29/F dont trust a word she says

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  15. ed
    June 16, 2010 at 5:47 pm (5 years ago)

    i just got scrammed from helen asante on Pof first time talk propose to move together i hope i dont get texts on my cel!!!! i have couple good experiences from that site so just be careful who u talk to!!!

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  16. Interactive Whiteboards %0A
    November 24, 2010 at 11:45 pm (4 years ago)

    the best dating websites are those sites which also gives you some freebies and souvenirs .:’

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  17. Mr Mugu
    November 30, -0001 at 12:00 am (2016 years ago)

    Any fool who is stupid enough to send money to a stranger deserves what they get. The individual who is in the photo is not the a real person. These scammers from Africa do this all the time. They even show pictures of white women stolen off the internet don't get fooled. If anyone asks you for money don't send it for any reason especially if they are from another country. No what their hardluck story is. Don't send money for any reason!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  18. ron
    November 30, -0001 at 12:00 am (2016 years ago)

    Hey, Whatt do you guys think about this! I have met this beautiful young girl in western Africa and we have been chating for a month or so, with her sending me all kinds of photos. I invited her to go on a trip with me and she was so excited but didnt have any money or even a credit card. Well I wasnt born yesterday so I started playing the game back. I told her I would come to her instead, she emailed me back and had excuses for that. So then I told her I would buy her ticket here and all she had to do is go sign in and fly. She said YES! Delta tells me that I can buy a ticket for someone else and it I get a refundable ticket if she dont show I can get a refund and she can't do anything with the ticket but fly. I know this has got to be to good to be true and sure sounds like a scam, But it really threw me when she said yes, what am I missing?

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  19. Lynn
    November 30, -0001 at 12:00 am (2016 years ago)

    can you guys send me the pics as well. this sounds very familiar. I would appreciate it. My email is dragonfly092774@yahoo.com. Thanks!!!

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  20. Bill
    November 30, -0001 at 12:00 am (2016 years ago)

    I have been in contact with a woman named Angel Asamoah, email is angel_asa1973@yahoo.com. Does anyone know about her? She is doing the same "I love you" stuff too. hasn't asked for money yet or tickets, etc. She has sent me pictures but no nude ones (thank God).

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  21. Lisa
    November 30, -0001 at 12:00 am (2016 years ago)

    Agreed. I've met, but not been taken in by two or three. Busted on and then, the other, and now the third. You are absolutely right. They are stupid and obvious. They are all the same and stick to the script. My advice? Meet men the old fashioned way and steer clear of all dating sites with an international connection. NONE of the South Africans can be trusted either. Always be suspicious of them, as they are full of caca. Thank you.

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  22. Patricia Eventon
    April 22, 2011 at 2:36 pm (4 years ago)

    Ladies beware of a scammer that goes by Michael Asare, Michael Asare Brown and Godfried Seth who uses Facebook to contact women through. He claims to be a Christian with a 8 y.o. daughter living in Hollywood or Lakeland Florida claiming to buy gold in Ghana and not able to feed his daughter while there and also needing $7000 to get to the next stop. He wants you to borrow, beg from friends and relatives for it. Beware ladies, he compassionate, falls in love easily…LOL and believes totally in God. He's still on Facebook. His email address Holly_man4u@yahoo.com.

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  23. Colbie
    April 27, 2011 at 10:01 am (4 years ago)

    I just got scammed by a man on Match.com saying his name is James Hollman. Email: jameshollman@yahoo.com. Says he's a 50 year old German man who lives in Pittsburgh, PA and has a diamond/gold import/export business. Supposedly went to Ghana, Africa, which is where I suspect he lives, for his business. Started asking for things like a laptop, digital camera, phone, etc. Then asked for money to help get his goods shipped back to the USA by Customs. He has connections with another scammer, David Connolly. He even sent me documents to prove his business in Ghana. Uses a Magic Jack phone so you can't call him. Claims his ex-wife and her boyfriend ripped him off and he has a 9 year old daughter, Lisa, who lives with his mother in Germany. Put photos of her and him on Match.com along with photos of his "mansion" that he inherited from his father, Stephen Hertzog who supposedly died in a car crash. If you check out some of the romantic messages you get from him, more than likely, they are lyrics from songs. He's a crier, too. Sounds really convincing when he is sobbing into the phone about being stuck in Ghana and can't get home because he needs money to pay Customs. Claims he has a best friend Felix. He has a thick German accent so it's hard sometimes to understand what he is saying. Packages to him need to be sent to the Rasco Hotel in Accra Ghana. He even sent me a copy of his passport which is from Germany, but he's lived in the USA for the past 25 years!!!!!!!!!! Not very smart on that issue. He refuses to give his address in Pittsburgh because he is afraid someone will steal his money from his house which he says is in a vault that requires his finger and face prints to open!!!!!!!!! Woman, beware. I lost almost $12,000 to this man and I am a very intelligent person with an MBA who fell for this guy because I wanted everything he said to be true and because the photos he used (which I am now convinced are not of him) showed a very handsome man with such compassionate eyes that you would never suspect he could be such a bad person.

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  24. tom
    June 22, 2011 at 4:50 am (3 years ago)

    What's funny with some of these African scammers, and where you can find the biggest hole in their story, is that they all claim to affiliated with, via family or other, is that they all have these ties to major enterprises in Ghana (especially gold & diamonds), but yet don't have a dime for anything else: Visas, medical bills, flights (they forgot to buy a ticket back to usa if american), and cameras, and webcams for their laptops so we can actually see their black scamming asses!!

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  25. russell
    June 26, 2011 at 11:35 am (3 years ago)

    I'm currently talking to a woman in Ghana says her name is Haruna Tahiru hasen't asked for any money but i found her picture on dating scammers list swears that i"m not talking to that person The name with the picture is Nana Sekyere <luvumm07@yahoo.com> the same yahoo mail number as on the website checked the IP address and say's untracable anyone have any information on her she has sent me pictures but none that were on the scammers list

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  26. mARTIN.UNGAR
    September 20, 2011 at 9:41 pm (3 years ago)

    I'm talking with A PERSON THAT CALLS HERSELY AFFECTIONATELUV@YAHOO .COM RIGHT NOW WHILE i;M LLOING AT HER PICTURE ON THE FRONT PAGE OF A NEWSPAPER THAT CLEARLY SHOWS THE PICTURE SHE SENT ME TELLING PEOPLE TO LOOK OUT FOR SCAMMERS.

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  27. michael
    May 23, 2012 at 2:34 pm (3 years ago)

    this person is sending me photos of raven riley ……… im tired of scammers !!!!! ghana scammer[5/21/2012 4:14:18 PM] goodlove: dear can i give you me details so that you can send me the money
    [5/21/2012 4:14:21 PM] goodlove: ok
    [5/21/2012 4:14:41 PM] michael sharkey: ok
    [5/21/2012 4:15:12 PM] goodlove: ok plz accept the pic ok
    [5/21/2012 4:16:13 PM] michael sharkey: ok i will i have to turn on camera to take photos
    [5/21/2012 4:16:28 PM] goodlove: NAME:ANTWI SAMPSON
    COUNTRY:GHANA
    CITY:KUMASI
    ZIPCODE:00233
    BANK:WESTERN UNION
    [5/21/2012 4:16:54 PM] goodlove: ok dear [5/21/2012 4:22:27 PM] goodlove: sampson.antwi55@yahoo.com

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  28. Carolyn
    May 27, 2012 at 4:32 am (3 years ago)

    Look up the ISP address of emails from suspected scammers. I just did and he's from S. Africa. Do a Google search on how to do it, not difficult! Glad I did!!!

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  29. Jim Paulino
    June 9, 2012 at 5:44 pm (3 years ago)

    Hi ,Has anyone talked or got involved with a Adriane Melaine or Joey Mendoza from Shenzhen they may be the same person , they are very good scam artists .

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  30. Bob
    July 4, 2012 at 1:42 pm (2 years ago)

    rashidahonest@yahoo.com sweetsara2g12@yahoo.com Her is 2 yahoo instant messenger names of the girl at the top of the page both addresses is the same girl. She gets romantic fast and very flattering even will text you. Clams to live in Ghana Africa but her text No. is not from ther. After 2 weeks of that she starts asking for money. She will cut you off on Yahoo IM to chat with another, clams to have a poor internet connection. Her photos is actually of a porn star named Raven Riley.

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  31. Marc
    August 27, 2012 at 1:48 am (2 years ago)

    Has anyone heard of Alice Dzamsei from Accra, Ghana.
    Usual story and photos.
    But has included one of her family in a normal pose. Got her cell phone which works ok.
    Thanks

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  32. andy smith-morse
    September 6, 2012 at 5:58 am (2 years ago)

    ive had experience with a few dating sites. well known names . they are all a con . they are after 1 thing . your money. Not a bad thing in itself, afterall i was expecting a few dates , so i went ahead and paid . incidently, whilst paying on line,i accidently hit the 1 year instead of 1 month! it cost me £90 . I wasnt happy . i asked cust serv if they would refund me the difference and guess what ..they declined.(bullshit email waffle)
    So from the start , it didnt go well !
    I started looking. Im not a bad looking guy ,and made a goal of 1 date a week. Not a great ammount.
    all the messages i received were from . people who lived 100s of miles away, A russian girl who had a son and loved me! wtf! and from people whos profiles had been sent to me by the site itself ,making me think it was from the women themselves! crafty Fuggers!
    I didnt get a single date.
    Ive decided to get out and about to the pick up joints on the weekend and speak to real women. and stop being conned on line
    thjis interwebb is a con mans dream.

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  33. Danny Albert
    September 8, 2012 at 2:40 am (2 years ago)

    Hello everybody
    Has been anyone contacted by a girl from Ghana goes by name Star Viv-and she claims to live in Cape Coast and the email she uses is sviva86@yahoo.com
    Pls let me have any comment

    Tks everybody

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  34. freedom
    October 11, 2012 at 8:03 pm (2 years ago)

    i fell for a guy i met on match saying he was george anderson from norcross, ga. he said his dad died when he was 3 and his mom died 8 years ago. his dad is from georgia, his mom was from uk. recently he took a job in cape town, south africa, then an accident occurred. he was dettain at the police station. he said the guest house he claimed to be staying at was burned down. he email me and said his life was in danger and him and his adopted daughter needed to leave immeidiately. i sent money but today i decided no more and i deleted his number and email address and i didn't tell my mom about this until a few minutes ago. two nights this week, my heart was pounding like crazy and i hesitated to tell my mom but i couldn't keep it from her no longer and i feel better now and i'm gonna have someone i know do a background check for me.

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  35. victor
    February 18, 2013 at 5:33 am (2 years ago)

    I joined . the sex with granies.com and met a few ladies. The site charges for a number of messages minimum7 at £10 the contacts dont really want to meet or give out email addresses until you've been messaging for weeks. It seems its just to spread out the contact to keep buying messages they call credits. The contacts are friendly and it is possible to develop a relationship but its always the same more and more messages getting nowhere. When asked to meet the answer is always lets get to know each other a bit more hence more message purchases. Contacts avoid giving email addresses by claiming they want safety and so refuse. Whats the point if nobody wants to meet just send countless costly messages I feel a right fool for joining this free then costing a small fortune for nothing. Are the contacts just women or men earning from the contacts they make I believe they do so beware of this site.

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