Nigerian Dating Scams

by Bruce Brown | 375 Comments

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BEWARE OF DATING SITE SCAMS. There are a lot of false profiles out on the dating sites. The false ones are typically free member parasites and not usually paying members. Many of the false profiles are harmless member stealer’s. They are on there to flirt with you and try and get you to come to some other dating site. But some are trying to steal your heart to get to your money.

ONLINE DATING SCAM TACTICS:

Step 1) Take the Bait

You meet someone on a dating site (Adult Friend Finder, Match, okcupid, etc). This person has posted a picture of themselves and they are gorgeous!
Their profiles says something like:

I am a caring ,loving, honest, respectful and i believe in god and real people to hop to meet meet my real love here

There profile seems perfect. They sounds sweet, loving and caring. Their picture (if they have one) looks incredible. They seem to live pretty close.

What’s really going on? More than likely it is some ugly dude from a third world country who just learned to use a computer. They found a hot picture and posted it on the dating site. They are the exact opposite of what ever they said on their profile: they are uncaring, dishonest and don’t respect anyone… not even themselves.

Step 2) The Out of Country Story

You send them a message. They reply and tell you that they’d rather talk to you on email (usually hotmail or yahoo). They then proceed to tell you that they are currently in another country (Nigeria, Ghana, Mali, England), but they have some sort of connection to the states in your local area. They’ll say they’re relatives are there or they do business their and they’d love to meet you sometime.

What’s really going on? They really are outside of whatever country you are (usually Nigeria, Ghana, West Africa – this is one of the top scams in that region).

Step 3) Relationship Deception

What they do next is get a steady relationship with you. They will send more pictures. They will want to know more about you so they can cater to your ego. They will tell you they love you, tell you how good you look, how great you are. Basically, anything get the relationship going.

What’s really going on? They are lying to you and 20 other people on 5 or 6 different dating sites.

Step 4) A Crisis: they Need Money

There are various lies they may use to get money. They will ask for cash to buy the ticket to come visit you or they will tell you a tragedy has occurred and they need your help maybe even with a promise to pay you back.

What’s really going on? They are attempting to take your money and spend it on bullshit.

Clues to Spot Dating Scams:

Pictures look too professional. Magazine quality photos should be a dead give away. If they send a series of pics and each one looks like a “model posed” photo shoot, be suspicious.
BAD GRAMMAR & SPELLING. They are typically not very well educated and it will sometimes come through loud the clear via very choppy English and slight stupid logic. Sometimes it is as bad as a 3rd grader (a dumb 3rd grader).
Western Africa. Be suspicious of ANYTHING from from Ghana, Mali and especially Nigeria.
Too much love, too fast. They will almost immediately start talking about “I love you”, “I miss you” – don’t be flattered… they don’t love you… trust me.

Disclaimer: Miracles do happen. Maybe you’ve just met a West African supermodel, with bad grammar, who has fallen madly in love with you in the course of two or three emails.

Conclusion:
I’ve dealt with these scammers on ebay, email, dating sites and in chat rooms and one thing I’ve noticed is that they are actually not very smart. They are just ruthless. They take advantage of people’s trust, kindness and generosity. They are not so much predators as they are parasites that jump from host to host. They feed on the infrastructure and wealth of Western Civilization and have nothing at all to contribute to humanity but ignorance and greed. The sad thing is that these few greedy, idiots are giving ALL West Africans a bad name on the Web and these nations (particularly Ghana & Nigeria) are among the richest nations in Africa with the greatest potential of having great success in any and all endeavors. Its a real shame.

Richest African Countries 2006: GDP Per Country

1. South Africa … $606.4 billion in international$ (up 8% from 2005)
2. Algeria … $262.2 billion (up 8.5%)
3. Nigeria … $181.8 billion (up 10.2%)
4. Morocco … $150.8 billion (up 4.8%)
5. Sudan … $98.8 billion (up 11.2%)
6. Tunisia … $91.4 billion (up 7.4%)
7. Ethiopia … $78.4 billion (up 12%)
8. Ghana … $59.4 billion (up 9.1%)

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375 Comments on Nigerian Dating Scams

  1. Carie
    July 22, 2013 at 5:39 pm (4 years ago)

    I have a picture of him and his daughter. He is asking me for money cause his daughter just got hurt on stairs and broke her leg. His name is Shawn Hannesel.

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  2. mike
    October 14, 2013 at 8:50 pm (4 years ago)

    THIS young lady at the top of this page has been told of her photos being used for scamming and is very upset with it and has ask for help to catch the scammer who is using the pics so if any one see'e any more of her pics report them and the ip address too if possible PLEASE… I HAVE HER PH… NUMBER AND ADDRESS AND E ADDRESS .

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    • Miles galvan
      May 9, 2016 at 7:49 pm (1 year ago)

      I too am trying to hel out.please pass8on info.She really is upset

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  3. ELLEN Langdon
    May 25, 2014 at 6:36 pm (3 years ago)

    Imet brian michael on here the dateing site now he and his lawyer want me to send money to nigeria.does any one know him?

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  7. Martha
    February 17, 2016 at 11:49 pm (2 years ago)

    Please I live in the US.I need your help I meant this man on line about 2 years ago…I never meant him, he was originally from North Carolina and we became very acquainted and he had told me that he was going to Lagos Nigeria that’s were he was staying for work he is a construction worker…him and his daughter he told me his wife had passed away about 5 years ago..the reason why I am writing to you is in August 4,2015 he was driving to go see his daughter in the hospital and he got into an accident and hit a pedestrian and that person died…he was not feeling well he was under a lot of stress because his daughter was in the hospital and broke 2 of her legs and needed surgery …this is what I was told..so thay put him in jail and his co-worker told me that he is in EKO Jail in Africa ? that’s all I know…I don’t know if he was moved to Lagos in a facility or were ? I’ve help Him as much as I can but they wanted me to send money to bail him out or he will die in jail I could not help him I did not have any money I tried getting a loan and I lost all my money because it was a scam and they stole my money he had some of his friends to send me a check into my account but the check was no good and I’m paying the price for overdraft fees..and my bank is giving me one more chance or they will close my account…he would text me everyday and sometimes he would call..I always thought that you can’t call from jail…? the last time I spoke to him was on February 9, 2016 at 8:35 pm my time..it’s so hard that we were so far away..he goes to church every Sunday he is catholic and I hadn’t heard from him in couple of days so I called his manager at the hotel were he was staying and they told me he had died Then I called another number that I had and they told me that he died in jail please I’m trying to find out the truth what really happened and why and when or if it’s all a lie because I’m not sending any money…I’m trying to call or email all the churchs in lagos Nigeria because he always after mass he always has a conversation with the pastor… please I need closer to what happened he was coming home soon..so he told me..please I need your help I need to know I’m not doing well at all, all I do is cry and so stressed… I miss him so much he had told me that when he gets here we would be married ?..please I don’t know what church that he goes to I don’t even know were he his address were he lives.. I’ve even tried contacting the embassy to help him but no one helped..and his friends are blaming me for his death because I didn’t help… his name is Albert Martinez and his daughter is Becky or even if its his picture.. I truly need your help I wish I knew what church he goes to..but I’m not doing good help me find out what happened and why or if I been used and all of this is all a lie …I know that he had told me that it is bad in jail and that he was not eating and all he was doing is crying and praying…please I beg of you.. have I been used because it hurts so bad and my life is torn apart now…Please I need your help I need to know if this is all a lie and I was betrayed. I’ve lost everything for this man because I can’t help anymore they tell me he died..and that’s it..wow

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    • Not stupid
      March 17, 2016 at 8:18 am (2 years ago)

      you were scammed!!!!!!!!!

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